Baby Blog 2007

Allison and Jamie have conceived! Let's see what happens next.

Wednesday, June 27, 2007

"That you have but slumbered here, while these visions did appear, and this weak and idle theme, no more yielding but a dream."

So said Puck in Shakespeare's A Midsummer Nights Dream

With pregnancy comes many strange dreams. The most unusual part of my dreams is that I can remember them now which before I did not. My dreams usually take on the characteristics of what ever TV show I happened to watch before bed. I'll have dreams about getting a tattoo from the boys at Miami Ink, wild parties with the guy in Entourage - well you get the point. My worst dream so far came this past week.

In my dream life is much the same as my life is today. Jamie and I are married and we are expecting a child. One day Jamie comes home and confesses that he slept with an old girl friend, Susan, the night before our wedding, and he's in love with her and he wants a divorce. I am, of course, upset. I can't believe this behavior is coming from Jamie. Now I've been cheated on in the past, even left by a husband for the little slut so I know how that kind of betrayal feels. This was different because I knew that bastard was a liar and I only had myself to blame, but Jamie is different. Jamie is an honest person and has never lied to me.

The dream continues with me trying to interrogate him about "how this could happen" and "what was he thinking" and "why did he pretend all this time that he loved me. that he loved us". Through the whole procedure he basically ignores the questions and just keeps saying that it's over and done. I begin to plot in my mind to call his close friend and try to get to the bottom of this charade that has been my life for the past 9 months. It is at this point in the dream that I realize that this person is not Jamie. I mean he looks like Jamie but he is not acting like the Jamie I know. He is showing no emotion what so ever and his facial expression never changes. I begin to wonder who this impostor is wearing a Jamie Suit.

I wake up and try as I might I can't get back to the dream to figure out who that dude is. In the morning I ask Jamie if he knows a "Susan". "Just my Aunt." he says. I am satisfied. This Jamie has emotion and expression and I know he loves me, that he loves us. Anyone can see it.

On a lighter note...today I lost my ankles. Here today and gone tomorrow.

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

You can't fool Mother Nature



Today in the US, any woman over the age of 35 who is having a baby is considered to be of Advanced Maternal Age (AMA). As a result, you are offered several different types of genetic testing to determine your risk of having a child with some sort of genetic defect either mental or physical. All mothers of any age have access to these test but at age 35 the insurance companies have decided the risk of performing these tests on your pregnant body and the risk of you having a child with one of these defects is about even so they fell pretty good about paying for the tests. Younger ladies, I guess, have to pay out of pocket.

Our AMA appointment was on Monday at 9am. We arrived and filled out the requisite number of forms. First we were interviewed by Joanne who worked for a company that does the genetics testing. She took a detailed family history from both of us asking about medical issues, birth defects and mental retardation. While we tried to be as accurate as possible is is hard to remember everything all your relative might have had going back two generations and all your cousins a what not. Joanne made a cool chart of our family tree using neat-o symbols and lines almost like a family tree or lineage. Only this family tree will tell you if you child will be normal or born with an extra nipple or something.

After looking over our information she gave us the run down on how our chromosomes come together and make a full set of genetic information for our child. She also explained some of the more common genetic defects caused by missing or extra chromosomes. It was all very informative and extremely interesting. In a way almost comforting because really your chances are pretty low and it's nice that they can tell you that. Joanne said that really the only reason I was there was because I was 36 and there was no indication from the info that we gave that we were at higher risk of having a child with some sort of genetic defect. We decided which genetics tests we wanted to do, signed another form and were sent back to the waiting room until time for the ultrasound.

A few minutes and one trip to the bathroom later we were called into the ultrasound room. The tech got us settled into out respective places, me on the table and Jamie in a chair next to me. In addition to the set up (computer, monitor, etc) that the tech was using to 'see' inside me...they had a large TV/Monitor mounted high up on the wall so we could both see everything. This was nice because you didn't have to crane your neck around to see the monitor the tech was using.

What followed was nothing short of the grand tour around my lower abdomen and the baby growing inside me. She didn't point out all the sights in my anatomy but she certainly did for the baby. We saw of course his head and body. Little pointed tushie. Legs, feet, hands, arms and even fingers. His little pointed nose and long curvy spine. She showed us his kidneys and bladder (which is the size of what mines feels like...tiny). We got a tour around his little heart and his aorta which was 2mm wide!! She did a Doppler image that showed the umbilical cord with the three blood vessels that carry blood to and from the baby. She said everything looked great. No signs of the malformations or genetic problems they are able to detect at this stage of fetal development via ultrasound. In fact she told us the baby was (in her opinion) bigger than 16 weeks. Her calculations put him at 6 oz which is about 18 weeks old.

We were both relieved. She printed out some pictures for us to take home and even made an extra for my mom. You can really see a baby shape in there. And so the big questions remain...Boy or Girl and just how old is this baby? One would think that if you can focus on a blood vessel that is 2mm wide you can tell if the baby has a penis or not. Her findings were inconclusive. I guess the little thing is just shy and didn't want to present his genitals. Let's hope that keeps up. Please don't be fooled by my characterization of the baby being a "he" or a "him" it's just me putting a label on someone I would rather not continue to call an "it".

So now the bad news...

Part of the ultrasound needed to include and examination of my cervix. The tech could not get a good look at it from the outside so we had to go for the internal ultrasound. She took some measurements and we were all done. I got dressed, took another bathroom break and we waited to be seen by the doctor, Raj Bansal.

Dr. Bansal called us in and once again announced that our child looked normal. Then he dropped the bomb. During the internal ultrasound, my placenta was shown to be laying across my cervix. This condition is know as Placenta Previa. It's a pretty serious condition if you should happen to go into labor while your placenta is down there over your cervix. It cause massive bleeding and the mother could potentially die. Placenta Previa was one of the three conditions I am most afraid of getting while I am pregnant.

Dr. Bansal told us it wasn't some thing to be terribly concerned about as 90% of previa cases tend to resolve themselves before the birth of the child. The uterus is so small at this point and the placenta can potentially take of 25-50% of the space in there. As the baby and your uterus grows bigger the placenta eventually moves up the side and away from the cervix. If the previa does not resolve then I might have to have a c-section. He put me on 'pelvic rest' which basically means no intercourse and no exams by doctors with sharp pointy objects like fingers. Try not to stress and don't do heavy lifting, etc.

Needless to say I was a little upset. As we left the office Jamie tried to console me. I was angry at the prospect of the c-section. I was afraid of what could happen if I started to bleed. I called my mom as we drove in to work to give her the update. Everyone was waiting to hear "boy" or "girl". Mom said we would pray for resolution of the previa and that God would answer our prayer just as he did when we prayed for a viable pregnancy. It calmed me down enough to get to work and do some research on the Internet. I found the following article which made me feel MUCH better. even though it only restate what the doctor had just told me -

During second trimester ultrasounds, done in some places on a routine basis, will show that there are many more previas diagnosed at this stage. Typically at 16 weeks the placenta takes up 25-50% of the surface area. Also the third trimester brings a growth of this lower uterine segment, that out flanks the growth of the placenta. For these reasons, while 5% of pregnancies are diagnosed with complete previa in second trimester ultrasounds will see 90% of them resolved by term and while 45% of pregnancies are diagnosed with marginal previas will see 95% resolved at term. A follow up ultrasound will be done, and as noted above the vast majority of previas are not seen.

Our next ultrasound will be July 31. Hopefully we will have previa resolution and the answer to the boy/girl question. I personally think it is a boy but I could be wrong so don't quote me on that. It would also be fine with me if they move up my due date. I've always thought they were about 1-2 weeks off in the calculation the due date.

Monday, June 11, 2007

Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you Dread Harbinger!

A lot of people have been asking us if we have any names picked out for our child. The answer is "yes" we do. These days with celebrities naming their kids things like Harley Quinn (Kevin Smith of Clerks fame named his daughter after a character from the Batman universe) and Moxie Crimefighter (daughter of Penn Jillette of Pen & Teller), we could not be left in the dust on this one. Jamie came up with a lovely uni-sex name that will strike fear in the hearts of every first grader at South Douglas Elementary School. "Dread Harbinger Grant" or "DH" for short you know for those cuddly moments. People ask us if we are serious...yes people we are serious, seriously joking. Although we both considered John Constantine* Grant for about 30 minutes on Saturday.

*the John Constantine from the graphic novel not the movie.

We do have a list and it is as follows in no particular order:

Boys
William Patrick
Ryan Bruce
John Henry
Arthur
Carter
Colin Kelly
Elisha
Peter
Sean Patrick
Aiden/Aidan
Quinten
Aeneas
Fletcher
Ian
Micheal

Girls
Isabelle
Caroline/Carolina
Sera Jane
Aerin
Samantha
Bronwynn
Eowynn
Ellafair
Olivia
Finoa
Larkin
Claire/Clarissa
Esmee

Your thoughts and opinions are welcome.

Monday, June 04, 2007

Required Reading

When you get pregnant is seems there's a lot of stuff you have to learn about your body and your growing baby really fast. In a way it's like taking a semester of "Human Growth and Development". Some things you learn right away and some things take time to learn. One way to learn about all this stuff is word of mouth. Your friends, co-workers and relatives all like to tell you stories of when they were pregnant and what happened to their friend, co-worker or relative. Some of this stuff you want to hear and some is rather scary. But you can't always rely on that sort of education. It's cool for baking a pie or making a pot roast but you really want something more detailed and researched for this particular 'bun in the oven'. Here are some books that I have found interesting and helpful.

What to Expect When You Are Expecting
The old stand by - I actually have the second edition which I picked up at a yard sale about 4 years ago. It has been very informative however in the beginning stages of pregnancy progress weekly and this book is laid out in months.

Your Pregnancy Week by Week
This is my favorite book so far. It is laid out in a weekly format with descriptions of how your baby grows and how your body changes. In the early weeks it shows you pictures of what your baby looks like and to-scale drawings.

The Belly Book
I bought this over the weekend. It a book to track your weight gain, belly size and has a place to put weekly pictures. There are places to record cravings and thoughts about the life growing inside you. It's a pretty cute book.

The Complete Baby Journal, Organizer and Keepsake
Found this at Border's over the weekend. So far it is the best baby book I have found. Growth Charts, Milestones, Teeth Charts - it's awesome. There are also some tools for when you hire a baby sitter - Emergency info cards, a list of the babies schedule, likes and dislikes etc. I haven't purchased yet but plan too.

The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding

This book is put out by the La Leche League. My mom suggested I get this book since I plan to breastfeed. Have not acquired yet but plan too.

Baby Names: From Aisha to Zander, Mary to Robert...All the Names You'll Ever Need
Picked this up at Border's. It has over 5,000 names with origins, meanings and variations. With tradional and trendy names there are planty to choose from.


I also signed up at Pregnancy Weekly online. They send me tips once a week and a weekly newsletter. The most helpful thing so far has been all the lists they have for you - Prenatal Classes, a Birthing Plan Checklist, Weight Gain Chart - and all kinds of lists for the Organized Mom and Mom-to-be.